Life values

Being thoughtless

Have you ever been thoughtless? A state of blank. Most of the times, our mind is filled with thoughts. And mostly they just wander like the floating dust in the breeze. Very rarely, the same thoughts catchup with the storm. Thats when we become emotionally uncontrollable.

So, why being thoughtless is so hard? To know this further, we just need to understand, how we have been brought up!! Most of the times, as part of evolution, we are subjected to various kinds of subjects. Most of the subjects during the initial period of our growth is by referrence than experience. Rose petals taste good. A flame is hot. These were constantly fed into our mind by the people around us. Once we experience this, we actually start to frame a stronger opinion on those. The first time, when we felt the heat of a flame, we realize and accept, the flame is hot. But at the same time, when we first tasted the petal of the rose, probably we would have felt its not so tasty as we thought to be. Because, taste is again an referrence scheme to the one which we liked. Immediately our mind compared it with the taste of the one which we liked to the rose petal, to form an opinion about the same.

Likewise, as our mind, starts to analyze the various things that starts to pileup over the years. Just like the cow that assimilates and chews its grass, when it sits on the pasture after its fodder. In the sameway, our mind brings in all the thoughts that are actively dormant as well as in the cache memory. From the recent quote you read, to the email, to the conversation to the year past conversation, to that lingering image etc, our mind just plucks one of these to float in, when we are idle. As the mind plays like a breeze, our thoughts as dust keeps floating and we float along with it.

Can the dust settle? Can we be thoughtless? Yes we can be. The best way to do it is becoming observant of those. It’s about watching the mind, as it frames those thoughts. Once you become observant of those thoughts, you start to realize the various thoughts that your mind creates or plucks from various links within the brain. The more you observe oneself, the mind starts to slow down. It becomes watchful towards the observation. It starts to slowdown.

Either being an observant or an observer, is also not an easy task. Because, when you are an observer, the actual expectation is to watch. Not to associate or arrive at any conclusions. Also not to link with any of the knowledge. For example, when we watch kids playing in the park, we generally don’t observe. We actually, allow our thoughts to look into the kids, their play, the beautiful surrounding of the green part, the tall green trees nearby; as minutes passes by we also start to do prediction, whether the kid might slip when they play, or start to immerse ourselves in the play as a mode of enjoyment and start to think about similar kids, or relate to the news or players associated. Then we start to day dream.

However, as an observer, when you start to observe the kid as a human and not even as kid, and not linking it to anything and just watch without any assumptions or predictions, then during that state of mind, we are thoughtless. Why thoughtless is so important to one’s focus? Being thoughtless, allows one to observer the state in the as-is condition. Thus it demolishes all layers of wraps covered by the associated thoughts. When you are thoughtless, there is a certain vacuum that gets created in mind. This vacuum at the initial stage tries to keep itself full, by pulling all thoughts in to the mind. However, as a practice, when you start to being thoughtless, then this vacuum starts to expand. There is a sudden vastness, we start to feel. In this vastness, we admire things as they are. We accept the things as it is. The mind doesn’t start to construe things or create assumptions. Most of the times, its our assumptions or presumptions that plays a major role part of all our communications in life.

Now, visualize where it’s without any assumption or presumption. Then the discussion becomes simple. The communication is open valley. Everything is visible in-front of the one who hears. There is crystal clear clarity. This brings in a new form of emotional conditioning. We don’t react. We stop being emotionally reactive. We immerse in the presence. We value the time. We start to see, there is no past and future. There is only now. Reaction slowly disappears. Acceptance, takes a major form. This is also conditioning of the mind. But in this state, we start to transform. In this state, as we. focus on now, we start to look at each and every aspect as a task in hand for this moment; rather than the results for the tasks. Which means, we start to unify. Unify as one, time, place and task all in one.

The excellence starts to appear, only when this happen. At this state results doesn’t matter. Because results take care of themselves. They are just by product of one’s own actions. However results influence to drive the actions minimizes. It’s the essence of being in presence, drives the results. Being thoughtless, is as I write, this blog, it’s allowing a free flow of words, at this point in time, to draft a content. I specifically removed the word meaningful, because, it varies from individual to individual. The meaning is nothing but an outcome of the understanding of various learnings and observations in the past, in relation to this blog. However, when you read and leave it to stand as such in your mind without any linkage, then the action which you had carried out is an immersive experience of being in presence and enjoying it. That’s being thoughtless.

Without thoughts, one cannot become thoughtless. Once one becomes thoughtless, its reveberation expands the thoughtlessness for others thoughtfulness.

Personal Excellence

Analyze your thoughts

Thoughts are like those different seashells. The way the seashells gets pushed to the seashore, thoughts occur the same way in our life. Most of them again gets pulled in by the waves. The one’s you catch can be grouped together to make great products. Do you know, a common man can make minimum 39 different varieties of products from a seashell. The reference to thoughts as seashell carries value. Let’s understand about seashell and relate to thoughts.

Seashells generally grow bottom up. They are like the exoskeleton. Every seashell carries unique patterns. These shells acts as protective homes for the soft inhabitants. The visually striking patterns are used to attract a mate or provide camouflage.

Shell patterns carry the complete history. They represent as what had happened at the shells’ growing edge. They are like a diary.

Like the seashell, our thoughts are by those nerve sparks that creates it. Each thought has its own origin. Mostly at the initial stage of formation, they are not so stable. They can be easily destroyed similar to the wave current for the seashells, for us it’s the situation current. The time at which the thoughts gets formed.

The Seashell life can be related to 3 stages of our thougths.

  1. The formation stage
  2. The dead stage
  3. The life stage.

Formation Stage of Seashell can be related to the future stage of thoughts. When the conditions of formation are not suitable for seashell, they don’t get formed. These can be due to the varying nature of of the wave beds where are they getting formed, the wave currents and the wave heat as well as pressure or the hijacking hunters of the ocean.

Similarly when your thoughts are focussed on to future, you are living in an environment in your mind that’s so fragile. The thoughts hallucinates you, of realism, of aspirations, or in most cases related to stress induced fear, anxiety etc. Though the thoughts of future are not concrete, they can get shattered immediately once your current environment changes. Simple correlation would be, when you are on a vacation on Mauritius beach, you live in a scenic environment. Most of the time, you would visualize your life being beautiful and even planning as to how it would it be, when you plan to live by a beautiful seashore. The moment your vacation gets over, you come back to reality. With in few days, you totally forget about the future lifestyle that you were building as pack of cards at Mauritius. The future thoughts when captured and held properly can turnout to become beautiful seashells. But mostly we leave those to fall and they vanish with time.

The dead stage of seashell are the one’s where they get pushed into the seashore. These are scattered all over on the seashore. In this stage, the mussels or the oyster or the clam have died either full-filling their journey or failing along its course. They become the remnants of the past. Similarly the thoughts of the past are the dead stage. The reason is, in no way we can go and correct the course. The one that happened as good, are to be rejoiced while the bad ones are just a scar, an experience. But never to dwell in those for long, because they don’t drive you forward. They just hold you.

Formation of a pearl. Referrence Natgeo Wild.

The life stage is where the pearls are made. Pearls are formed naturally when an irritant – in general a parasite – gets into an oyster, mussel, or clam. In order to protect similar to a defense mechanism, a fluid coats the irritant. It’s called as ‘nacre’ as it is coated layer upon layer. It’s deposited once a shining pearl is formed. Your present thoughts are similar to those. The irritants are like your hardships. The more you focus on the current one in hand, you will gain results. The results can be simple work completion, to a happy dinner with family or a time by yourself in the evening watching the sunset.

Life is a mixture of all these stages. All these thoughts. You cannot do away with one another. They are here to stay. The present thought in the current moments keeps you in the moment. The future when aligned with the present, helps you to work your way up. Grab your steps in a planned way to reach your goal. The past can be just a guiding force, when its an experience. The more the present, it keeps you at the peace and with a percentage of future should act as a guiding force to reach your goal. The past has to be minimalistic. When you forget about your past, you are bound to repeat your mistakes again.

Above all, the only thing you have to heal is the present thought. Get that right and the whole picture will change into one of harmony and joy.

Eckhart Tolle

History, Personal Excellence

History is by most motivated

I remember the lines by Marthin Luther King, when I think about History.

We are not makers of History. We are made by History.

This quote is of significant importance to our title today. Martin Luther King felt the pain of racism. He fought for the civil rights. He understood, that the current situation of him at his point in time in America, was because of the past history. That’s were this quote by him makes a splash.

However, he didn’t accept the history to push him down. He wanted to change it. He dreamt about a better future. A better society with equal rights. A society without racism. That’s how “I have a dream” his remarkable speech was born. Today, if we all are enjoying the fruits of better life, better education, better livelihood compared to the past, it’s because of leaders like Martin Luther King who changed the course of History. Gandhi was motivated enough with his ahimsa principle to bring in freedom to India. Aung San Suu Kyi of Burma, was awarded noble prize for her non-violent struggle for democracy and human rights. The burmese people feel the freedom of life in their country, its because of Suu Kyi.

History doesn’t mean the larger cause alone. If you are living a life of better livelihood, had opportunity to have good education and a comfortable life, then somewhere along the line, it might be your parents or grandparents who took the challenge upon themselves of writing a better life for you. Motivation is intrinsic. However, when you are clear as to what it can benefit others, then you create history within your circle of influence. 

As a quote says,

We are here to create history. Not repeat it.

Lets be motivated enough to create history. A history that shall be good to other others. 

Personal Excellence

Influence. Influenced. Influencer.

Influence. Influenced. Influencer.

When you wish to make a change or an impact, you need to know what you want to do. The best way is to get influenced in the subject. When you wish to become an artist, learn about artistry. You obviously get influenced by specific artists in the domain. Once you adopt, learn, practice and evolve you will become an influencer. Thus, when you wish to make a change, get influenced by the change.

Personal Excellence

You are your own Brand

Most of the times we confuse between the accessories and brands. The so-called brand cannot be in existence, if you as a buyer doesn’t exist. Actually, you are the brand these brands are after. Once you understand, you can clearly build your brand value. All other brands, you will understand are just accessories.

You are your own brand